Becoming a mom is one of life’s most beautiful—and challenging—experiences. Whether you’re a first-time mom or adjusting to a new baby, the journey can feel overwhelming. If you’re a new mom trying to navigate sleepless nights, endless feedings, and the constant changes, know that you’re not alone. Here are 10 tips to help you survive—and thrive—during those early weeks and months.
Take It One Day at a Time
The first few weeks with a newborn can be a blur. It’s easy to feel like you’re not doing enough or that you’re not “getting the hang of things.” But remember: Every day is a new day. Take small wins and celebrate the little moments with your baby. It doesn’t all need to be perfect. Set realistic expectations for yourself—there’s no need to do everything right away!
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help
New moms often feel like they need to do it all, but asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength. Whether it’s a family member, friend, or neighbor, don’t hesitate to ask for help with baby care, housework, or meal prepping. Most people are eager to lend a hand. Create a list of tasks you need help with so others know exactly what to do.
Establish a Feeding Routine (But Be Flexible!)
Feeding is one of the most important—and sometimes stressful—parts of the early months. Whether you’re breastfeeding or formula feeding, try to establish a feeding routine for both you and your baby. It will help with predictability, but also, be flexible. Babies are unpredictable, and routines often shift as they grow. Keep snacks and water nearby if you’re nursing—self-care during feeding is important too!
Sleep When the Baby Sleeps
Newborns sleep a lot, but in short bursts. It’s easy to feel the pressure to clean, cook, or check off a long to-do list while baby is napping. But if you can, **rest** while your baby rests. Your body is recovering, and sleep deprivation can be exhausting. Don’t worry about the laundry—your well-being comes first. Even 15 minutes of shut-eye can help you feel more refreshed!
Take Care of Your Mental Health
Postpartum mental health is just as important as physical recovery. Hormonal changes, sleep deprivation, and the emotional rollercoaster of new motherhood can be overwhelming. Don’t be afraid to talk to a doctor or therapist if you’re struggling. You’re not alone, and it’s okay to ask for support. Try journaling or talking to a friend about your feelings—it can help process the emotional ups and downs.
Accept That You Will Need to Prioritize Your Baby
In the early days, your baby’s needs will likely take priority over everything else—and that’s okay! It’s easy to feel like you’ve lost yourself in the chaos, but remember that this phase is temporary. As your baby grows, you’ll find more opportunities to balance your personal needs with your parenting duties. It’s okay to give yourself grace while adjusting to this huge life change.
Find Your Tribe
Find a group of other new moms or parents who understand what you’re going through. (This group is amazing!) Whether it’s through a local playgroup, a social media group, or a friend from your prenatal classes, connecting with other moms can be a lifesaver. Sharing tips, venting frustrations, or even just having someone to talk to can make a huge difference. Don’t compare yourself to others. Every mom’s journey is unique!
Trust Your Instincts
As a new mom, you’ll get lots of advice—some helpful, some not-so-helpful. At the end of the day, trust your instincts and do what feels right for you and your baby. You know your baby better than anyone else. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t hesitate to reach out to your pediatrician for reassurance.
Document the Little Moments
The newborn stage is fleeting. As exhausted as you may be, try to capture the tiny moments you’ll want to remember forever: the first smile, the first coo, the way your baby curls up in your arms. Even if it’s just a quick picture on your phone or a few lines in a journal, preserving those memories can be incredibly special. Don’t pressure yourself to capture everything, but make an effort to enjoy and savor those sweet, small moments.
Remember: It’s Okay to Not Have It All Together
The truth is, no one has it all together—even if it looks that way on Instagram. Motherhood is messy, beautiful, and often unpredictable. Your best will look different every day, and that’s perfectly okay. The key is to be gentle with yourself and acknowledge the hard work you’re doing every single day. On tough days, remind yourself: You’re doing amazing. Your baby is lucky to have you.
New motherhood can feel overwhelming at times, but it’s also one of the most rewarding journeys you’ll ever experience. You’re not expected to have everything figured out right away, and there’s no “perfect” way to be a mom. What matters is that you show up, care for yourself, and enjoy the beautiful bond you’re building with your little one.
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