Editor’s Note: This is Part 2 in a series Jess started last week. You can read Part 1 here. Enjoy!
Today I’m sharing the last 3 tips on ways you can keep your marriage a priority amidst the craziness that life brings with small kids in your house.
Continuing the list I started last week, these are just a few things that Jason and I try to make sure to do to keep each other front and center in our lives. It’s not perfect by any means, but we work really hard at it. If you’re just tuning in to ways you can make your marriage a priority, check out Part 1 in this mini series!
4. Trips away without kids
This one is not always possible, I get it. It takes money, time, time off work, a lot of planning, and organizing someone to watch the kids while you’re gone. And if you don’t live close to family, the thought of going on a trip just the two of you can feel more like a burden. BUT. There is nothing better than even having just ONE DAY or weekend out of the whole year where you don’t have to worry about anything else other than each other. It’s refreshing, rejuvenating for your relationship, and just gives you both a break as parents.
I think even if you can take a staycation for one night and one day, you’re doing yourselves and your marriage a huge favor. (See THIS post and THIS post for the best staycation spots). I say however possible and in whatever capacity it may look like for you, try to make this a priority once a year if you can.
5. Try new things together
I would encourage every married couple to keep some element of ADVENTURE in your marriage. No need to let things get boring! Make a point to try new things together.
For you, that might mean trying new places to eat. Or checking out an awesome rock climbing wall. Or even enrolling in ballroom or swing dance classes together! Whatever it is, don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone together every once in awhile. At the very least, it’ll make for some awesome laughs and great memories!
6. Ask for help
Asking for help is something I’m STILL learning about in my own personal life! But I think it’s important that we each have a support system of people around us that who we know we can call upon when needed. Whether that be family that can help watch the kids so you can go out together, a mom or sister who can give you a hand with dinner, groceries, or laundry, a cleaning service that can clean your house once in a while OR just a good friend that can offer up awesome advice.
I think when we as moms, take it upon ourselves to conquer the world, we lose sight of what should be the biggest priorities in our lives. Asking for others to help in whatever capacity that means for you, doesn’t mean that you’re not capable of being an awesome wife and mom. It just means that NONE of us can carry huge loads all the time. Making ourselves available to our husbands and our children will be worth asking for a little bit of help, in whatever area is reasonable for you.
And in the end? It’s always going to be worth the super hard work it takes to make your marriage a priority. It’s not always easy. But finding the joy amidst the chaos, making life fun together even on horrid days when your toddler smears poop on the walls, and remembering why you started this thing called FAMILY together in the first place is key.
It goes by so quickly. Before you know it, the kids will move out and you’ll be left looking at the husband you once knew. Why not focus on each other along the way?
At the very least, it will make the journey a lot more fun together!