This one is the hardest for me. Not because I don’t want to play with my kids or spend time with them! I do!! But as a working stay at home mom, I deal with a lot of mom guilt on this topic. You know, mom guilt? The insane amount of guilt that can flood into your life immediately after giving birth? The guilt that makes you feel like you are doing EVERYTHING wrong in regards to your children and that won’t go away… well, ever?
Gosh I really struggle with mom guilt. If I’m working and not spending time with them- Guilt. If I’m spending time with them and not getting work done- Guilt. If I’m cleaning and not spending time with them OR working- Guilt. It’s really quite ridiculous. And I KNOW this in my brain, but my heart struggles internally with staying focused on why it is that I stayed home with our kids to begin with.
Since I work from home I have to really find a good balance in this area. I work a crazy insane amount of hours each week. Plus, I truly love my job and WANT to do it every day too. But I have to be really, really careful that I’m not just letting a movie or Sesame Street baby sit my kids while I’m getting work done. So every week, I really have to go back to my weekly plan that I talked about in my post about Organizing Your Home Life.
Structuring your week and determining when you are doing to work and when you are going to play is vital. What’s more important, is sticking to it! I detail out a more detailed plan on my personal blog HERE.
I also try to come up with daily and weekly activities that I can do with my kids. Activities that get me out of the house, with other moms and children, and activities that will wear them out! Ha! I am always on Scottsdale Mom’s Blog looking for activity ideas and to stay on top of the latest and greatest things that they are doing. It’s such an easy way to connect with other mom’s in the Phoenix area and it gets all of you out of the house! They are always going to the zoo, doing play dates, and putting together other fabulous outings for local mom’s. Getting involved with the community, other mom’s and friends has
really helped me to be able to stay focused on my job. We come home, I lay them down for an afternoon nap and I can truly focus on my work because I know that I stimulated their brains and bodies by getting out of the house and engaging with other adults and children. The mom guilt disappears on days like this because I know that I spent good quality time with them, work free.
Plus, we all have a lot of fun!
I really try to remember that when you work hard, you need to play hard. You deserve a break as a working mom and your kids need to see you as more than a professional who works all day long. Make time to get out and DO LIFE with them on a daily basis, even if it means you need to schedule activities to do it! I have to constantly keep my priorities in check. Yes, work has to be a huge priority for me because it is our livelihood.
But I can’t loose sight of why I’ve always wanted to be home with my kids. I have to remember to put them first when I’m planning out my day, working in times to get my work and house cleaning done.
So, make a plan and get out of the house and into the sun with your kiddos- GUILT FREE. If you have an organized plan, you have no reason to feel guilty about getting work done! And you’ll feel better knowing that you are putting your kids first and making it a priority to play and spend good quality time with them.
I am Jessica Williams, full time wife, mother, and photographer. My husband Jason and I have two little boys, Cruz (2.5) and Rider (6 months) who have absolutely changed our lives in all the best ways possible. We live locally in Scottsdale, which is where I grew up, but we just moved back as a family almost a year ago. Jason and I are full time photographers with Session Nine Photography, photographing Weddings and Lifestyle Sessions locally as well as nationally. Jason also works at Scottsdale Bible Church as a Worship Pastor for Soma Young Adults and for High School Ministry. Having grown up in Scottsdale from a very young age, I really love living and raising my own children in Scottsdale. I love getting out in the city and I’m always looking for new things to do! I am passionate about being a mom and empowering women to find what they are passionate about and to live it out. I am inspired daily by women who are hard workers, who love their family and who remain true to who they are.