We moms are all supposed to be on the same team, right? But what about those times when you catch another mom giving you a sideways judgy glance – whether it’s because you just let your toddler eat a cracker off the floor or your preschooler is getting bullied by a bigger kid and you step in to reprimand the offender? In this series we’re talking about these sticky situations…the ones where you feel like you might be breaking some sort of unspoken rule – if only you knew what it was! Help us solve these tricky questions in the comments – sound off with your own opinions and let’s get some discussion going!
Regardless of your discipline technique – time-outs, spankings, mama-child “discussions”, loss of priviledges – all moms universally relate to the age-old public discipline dilemma, right?
Since Nora turned roughly 18 months old I’ve been given multiple opportunities to “perfect” my public discipline technique. For example…
I get together on a weekly basis with some dear friends and their other 2 year olds (yes – that sounds scary – I fully realize that!). We frequently meet at various mall play areas, Imagination Avenue, The Play Factory… you name any indoor activity play option and we’ve probably hit it up.
As you all know my sweet little Nora is quite the Spirited Child. In this case, the reason why I mention this is simply because the definition of a spirited child includes the term “feisty.”
1. Having or showing exuberance and strong determination.2. Touchy and aggressive.
This will be a great quality of Nora’s (once we help her to manage her feisty-ness appropriatly) but oftentimes at age 2 in playdate situations it’s a little hard for Ms. Nora to manage all of her aggressiveness.
On this particular playdate Nora really Really REALLY wanted to use a specific toy. More than likely she’d only had her eyes on it for roughly 2 seconds but it appeared as if she’d been DYING to play with that one toy all morning. I’m sure you can imagine this scene unfolding. Nora marched her way up to the little play car. Grabbed the shirt of the little girl who was currently in the play car and yanked her out of her prized possession with just a little too much aggression. Not only wasn’t she sharing but she caused pain to another child (two good reasons for some sort of discipline in my mothering opinion).
So… what should I do? Tell her no and hope she doesn’t do it again? Give her a warning and then threaten more punishment? Take her into the bathroom for a “talk?” Leave immediatly with my head going a million miles an hour because I simply have no idea what to do? Ugh…the options are unending!
So, all of you incredibly wise Scottsdale Moms out there reading this post, what would/do you do? Like so many things in parenting I realize there isn’t just one right answer but I’d love your thoughts and words of wisdom, pretty please.