To Love, Honor and Cherish on Valentine’s Day (and always)

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Since this holiday tends to be about what our guys did (or didn’t do), I thought I’d add a little twist to your thinking today.  So ladies, what do you do on a regular basis to make your husband a priority? I mean really show him how much he matters to you?

I often go throughout my day huffing to myself about this or that mess or wishing Kevin would put his socks there and not here (etc…), only to greet him with a pathetic wave “Hello” in the evening.  Well, that is certainly NOT the way that I want him to feel nor is it showing him how truly grateful I am to him for the love he demonstrates to me and Reagan on a daily basis and all the work he does to provide for our family.

So, how can I (we) change from being a complainer(s) to cherishing the most important man on earth?

For starters, think positively. It is easy for me to criticize and nit-pick each and every little thing that my husband does wrong… but who am I?  I have just as many, if not a thousand more bad habits and frustrating quirks. (Promise).  When I focus on the good and loving things about him, my attitude changes, my perspective changes.  For example, I think about how passionate he is about his work and how attractive that is.

Next, do something nice. This may seem like it has the “duh” factor, but when our hands do something to serve someone else (like folding the clothes the way he likes or having dinner ready when he gets home) our hearts often follow.  Maybe he notices, maybe he doesn’t, but the point is about instructing your heart to cherish him.  (Remember, it’s not about how he responds, but about helping you create a loving attitude toward him.)

It’s better to give than to receive. When my expectations aren’t met, I sulk or throw quite a handsome pity party.  It’s pretty pathetic actually.  However, when I focus on what I can do (getting the focus off of myself), and think about what’s in the best interest of my hubby, it is also (strangely) better for me too.  Go figure.

So, the moral of this story, this Valentine’s Day, is that it’s not about what we get, who got the most thoughtful gift or has the most romantic husband, it’s about how we are building our marriages to last.  The best way to do that is to take the focus off myself and cherish him.

What do you do  to show your husband you love him?  Do you have any tips for other ladies about how to cherish him?